At Hammer & NER, it’s key for our staff to build meaningful relationships with the individuals we support, fostering a sense of community that extends far beyond the workplace. One remarkable example of this was seen in August, when Emma Handeland, Program Manager at our Lakeside home, married her husband Ben. Their wedding was not only a celebration of their love but also a testament to the strong, personal bonds Emma has formed with the people she supports.

Emma & Megan

Emma didn’t hesitate to invite 11 individuals she has supported throughout her career at Hammer & NER. Some were current residents at Lakeside, while others came from the McGlinch and Lancaster homes where she previously worked. “Before we were even engaged, I had probably already decided to invite them,” Emma said. “Some of them absolutely love weddings, and they had been talking about it for months.”

On the day of the wedding, the individuals Emma supports were not simply guests—they were an integral part of the celebration. Upon arriving at the reception, they were some of the first to greet Emma and Ben, showering them with hugs and well-wishes. Some even had the chance to give speeches, which left a lasting impression on Emma’s family and friends. One particularly touching moment was a speech by Megan, who lightened the mood by humorously commenting on Emma’s emotional father, saying, “Your dad, he’s so sad, but you look so beautiful!”

Having the individuals she supports involved in her wedding was not only meaningful for Emma but also for her loved ones. “My husband’s family really loved seeing the bond I have with them,” Emma said. This was especially poignant for Ben’s family, who have a young child with Down syndrome. The inclusion of the individuals Emma supports allowed Ben’s family to see firsthand the positive impact Emma’s work has on so many lives.

Jake hanging out with Ben and the groomsmen before the reception

For the individuals themselves, the day was filled with joy, fun, and a sense of being part of something bigger. They enjoyed the festivities, from dancing to indulging in the wedding desserts. One guest even asked Emma when she would be getting married again, eager to relive the experience. Another highlight was a spontaneous moment captured in a photo, where one of the guests, Jake, stood alongside the groomsmen, chatting with them for over 20 minutes while Emma adjusted her dress before the reception.

The inclusion of the people Emma supports at her wedding speaks to the deep, family bonds that are often formed between staff and individuals in our programs. “I think it brought more depth to our relationship,” Emma reflected. “It showed them that they are truly part of my life, even outside of work.”

Emma’s wedding is a perfect example of the person-centered care we strive for at Hammer & NER. It’s not just about supporting individuals during the workday—it’s about creating lasting, meaningful connections that enrich both their lives and ours. For Emma, this experience highlights how important it is to involve the people we support in the special moments of our lives. “If you have family permission, invite them to be part of what you’re doing,” Emma advises other staff members. “It might seem small to you, but it’s so special to them.”

Emma & Ben joined by their Hammer & NER family

As we celebrate Emma and Ben’s marriage, we also celebrate the values of community, inclusion, and love that define our mission at Hammer & NER. Emma’s wedding day was not only a personal milestone but a beautiful reminder of the lasting impact that comes from truly investing in the lives of the people we support.